Wanted: Your Comments for A New, Improved Valentine’s Day

Holidays evoke a wide host of emotions. A holiday that might be eagerly anticipated by some, is often a source of emotional pain to others. Valentine’s Day is an example of such a holiday.

Valentine’s Day’s, long-standing commercial nature has made it hard to ignore its existence.  Anyone recovering from a break-up, divorce, or grieving the loss of a loved one, will likely be eager to cross February 14th off their calendar. Alas, instead of being a day to look forward to, Valentine’s Day can be a stinging reminder of disappointments, betrayals, unrequited love, and loneliness.

Even for those blessed with romantic love, Valentine’s Day can still be dreaded because it represents yet another stressor on one’s wallet and purse strings.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if Valentine’s Day could be repackaged and retooled? Imagine how great it would be if we could turn Valentine’s Day into a true celebration of love and friendship minus all the commercialism . . .

When I think back to my childhood, I remember how hurtful Valentine’s Day could be to the majority of the children in my school. Valentine’s Day was inevitably another time for many of the popular kids to gloat as they counted up the number of Valentines they received. For any of us who were unpopular in school, Valentine’s Day was yet  another reminder that we are not on the “A” list.

Think of how great it would be if there were a new version of Valentine’s Day–a Valentine’s Day that men, women, and children of all ages could enjoy equally–no matter what their relationship status, popularity among peers, and/or their bank balance. Wouldn’t it be lovely if a new Valentine’s Day could be born that celebrates not only romantic love, but also loving kindness and unconditional love?

It is my hope in posting this blog entry that it serves to cause each of us to do more than just commiserate on the down sides of Valentine’s Day.

What if this little blog post had the power to really make a difference in this one day of the year. What might happen if each person who reads this blog offers a comment or two on how to truly improve Valentine’s Day?

And what if each of us circulated this blog and its resulting comments to the people to whom we like, love, and share space? We could send ideas for an improved Valentine’s Day far and wide.

We could share ideas with grade school teachers, librarians, folks who run soup kitchens, activity directors at retirement homes, and others to help all people to feel more love–not just those who are already showered with affection.

Wouldn’t it be great if this little blog could open up a dialogue on the true meanings of love and friendship? What if each person who is forwarded this blog adds their own brilliant comments in the form of ideas that will make Valentine’s Day kinder, more gentle, and that is true to all the meanings of the word love?

And what if each of us decides to take action to make Valentine’s Day more kind and loving?

Please help to improve Valentine’s Day by adding your own comments and ideas to this blog post. So that our ideas and comments count, please forward this blog and its comments to anyone you believe would enjoy being a part of making Valentine’s Day more loving and kind.

With enough people power and good thoughts and ideas, I believe that we can work together to create a new, improved Valentine’s Day that will be a blessing to both the loved and the lonely of the world.

To get the ball rolling, I will now offer three simple ideas that can be easily implemented to spread love and happiness on Valentine’s Day.

1. Send a Valentine email to anyone you know who is struggling emotionally, physically, or spiritually and let them know that you are thinking about them. Emails are a free and easy way to communicate with people who need love and attention.

2. Perform a random act of kindness for someone in need. We have all heard of random acts of kindness–but sadly, too few of them occur. A random act of kindness can be any simple gesture that in any way helps another being. It can be something as simple as carrying someone’s groceries who is struggling, or shoveling the snow off your neighbor’s porch.

3. Don’t forget to love yourself. Make a list of your own qualities, and let your own goodness and talents surface and be experienced by others. Give yourself the gift of your own love.

2 thoughts on “Wanted: Your Comments for A New, Improved Valentine’s Day

  1. Ramona Hamblin

    As the mother of three, I often feel burdened by holidays. Will I find the right gift or expression for each child? Will it be fair? Will it have any meaning beyond tooth decay or stuff accumulation?

    Now I think I will walk through Valentine’s Day with a mission to continually remind myself how valuable expressions of love are. I will work particularly hard when I find myself being judgmental or internally sarcastic. People who trigger this reaction in me could probably use my love more than my scorn.

    Thank you so much for this reminder. I believe love has enormous power to reshape our lives. When I feel it toward others it lifts me up and it might even brighten their day.

  2. Abby Collins

    I have a 22 year old son with autism who writes me a personal letter every single day. The topics of these letters range from “what we are going to do this weekend” to “what are we having for dinner?” and everything in between. He not only writes letter to me, but also to his Aunt, who lives with us, and to any and all guests (including extended family members who come to visit). He is very proud of these letters and the distribution of them has become very much a part of our daily and holiday traditions.

    Richard and I are very close, so you can imagine my surprise when one day he presented me a letter that said “Momma, I’ll be so happy when you die and go to heaven.” I stopped there and looked at him, dumbfounded…as I had lost both my parents around his age and I couldn’t imagine him being happy if I were to die. Rather than read the rest of the letter, I fought back a tear and asked him why he wanted me to go to heaven? He motioned for me to finish reading his letter, and as he did, he explained that “because when you go to heaven, you’ll get to see your Mother, Father and Grandmother again…and I know you miss them so very much.”

    “Won’t you miss ME if I go to heaven?” Yes, he answered with a tinge of sadness, but I’ll be happy that you will have your parents back!

    I don’t know if Richard fully understood the impact my death would have on his life…but just the fact that he was willing to give me up for my own happiness was my idea of one heck of a loving Valentine..

    My suggestion is that we all write someone a little letter today and, in it, offer them some truly unselfish wish for their happiness.

    P.S. What neither Richard nor I knew when he wrote me that letter was that I had a congenital heart problem and would nearly die from surgical complications less than a year later. As my life flashed before my eyes while the cardiac team worked to clear the blood clots out of my coronary arteries, I was comforted by the memory of Richard’s letter and knew that if I did die, he and his sister would be okay.

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